Letter from a teenager to his Dad : By Derek Chapman

Below is a meaningful poem by Derek Chapman to his Dad, Gary Chapman

Gary Chapman is the author of the best seller The Five Love Languages for Teenagers

Click the following for a quizzes to get to know the love languages of yourself as well as your family members.

Click here : Quizzes for the 5 love languages

 

Excerpt from :  The Five Love Languages of Teenagers by Gary Chapman

 

Dad,

You listened way past dark,

This is what you gave to me,

You had ears to hear,

The exploding symphony of my youth,

Knife words, scissors syllables slicing thin air;

The others left,

You stayed,

And listened.

 

When I blew holes in the ceiling-shotgun screams,

Rapid firing flames,

Ripping angels’ wing open;

You waited,

Mended the wings.

And we continued somehow,

To the next day,

The next meal,

The next bomb.

 

And when they all ran for cover,

For shelter,

For protection,

You stayed out on the battlefield,

Exposed to fire from all sides;

You risked your life,

When you had me

You risked your life listening,

Way past dark.

 

by Derek Chapman 

 

Communication skill : Avoid Jumping to Conclusion before Clarification

Communication series

We need to avoid jumping to conclusion or make any assumption when someone says or do something.  Be patient, take a deep breath and gently ask questions and seek clarification.

Here is a simple video for illustration.

 

Communication : How to Have Healthy Conflicts?

Here’s a short and informative video clip on communication skills for relationships

Pandemic and Mental health ( 疫情与心理健康 ), a talk by Psychiatrist, Counselor and Pastor

Pandemic and Mental health ( 疫情与心理健康 )

The following is a talk on Pandemic and Mental Health in Aug 2021

The 3 speakers are Dr Vincent Wong ( Psychiatrist, Klang ), Ms Yvonne Lee, PJ/Klang ( Counselor ) and Reverend Ho Yong Seng ( Pastor )

Communication : Seek first to understand then seek to be understood

Communication series 3.1

My recent posting was on communication between parents and child/teenager during moments of anger and frustrations. Click HERE for the link. And here is the link for PARENTING FORUM BY FOCUS ON THE FAMILY MALAYSIA.

The following tip of communication is by the late leadership guru Stephen Covey, who wrote the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It is one of my favourite book.

I believe this is one of the most important art of communication for any relationship.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5utXgvHEj_E

 


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