Michael Phelps, Naomi Osaka and Dr. Vivek Murthy shares about personal Mental Health Journey
This is an absolutely meaningful sharing by people who have experienced the Mental Health struggles. From Struggling to Survivors and eventually Mental Wellness.
I have posted this in Sept 2023. Why am I reposting it here? Simply because, the key to any meaningful human relationship requires every individual to begin the journey of reaching out for help to gain self understanding and self healing from previous emotional wounds / hurting / trauma / emotional neglects.
I firmly believe that it takes two mentally healthy and emotionally healed souls to grow into a healthy relationships.
Michael Phelps, World-famous Olympic swimmer and Naomi Osaka, former World No:1 Tennis star shares their story.
Dr Vivek Murthy, Surgeon General of USA shares his personal story too and about the “pandemic” of loneliness in his book “TOGETHER”.
Here it goes! Click here.
2023 US Open Forum on Mental Health and Sport: Why It Matters – YouTube
Healthy Marriage Trait : Resolving Conflict by Focus on the Family, Malaysia
Good communication skills is key to every healthy relationships. Besides, having good Conflict Resolution tools is absolutely important to resolve conflicts. This is because it is normal for two persons living together to have difference in opinions and disagreements. Both party need to put in efforts to find a win-win solution. The spirit of give and take and healthy compromise is important.
If a win-win is not possible, sometimes, both persons may need to agree to disagree and find the peace to move on.
In the following series of 4 videos by Focus on the Family, we will focus on
- Healthy Marriage Trait 1 : Healthy Conflict Management
- Healthy Marriage Trait 2 : Shared Enjoyable Activities
- Healthy Marriage Trait 3 : Shared Responsibilities
- Healthy Marriage Trait 4 : Physical Intimacy
The reason that I placed Conflict Management as the first video because both partner need to resolve their conflicts before they could spend meaningful time together.
So here’s the first video.
Rules of Pleasure
Let’s take a short break from sharing about healthy marriage and relationships.
In fact, Rule No. 1 for all relationship is To Do No Harm.
So i am reposting a series of 2 articles in 2015 on Rules for pleasure.
Let’s assume that I need to put up a few nights in a hotel within a city, away from my home, to attend a conference. I may wish to explore the city and have a little drink. I may even feel tempted to visit the red-light district with a few friends.
During these period, I need to be mindful of my boundaries/limits. I need to know that certain activities may be pleasurable but it may hurts the feelings of my partner.
Well, there are indeed guiding principles on experiencing pleasures in life. So check this out.
Frank W. Boreham, a preacher and writer described three rules for experiencing pleasures.
Rule No. 1 : Whatever that refreshes us but does not compromise our final goal/purpose in life is a legitimate pleasure.
Simple pleasures which help us to relax and gives us joy are legitimate needs. However, it should not compromise our value system or lead us away from our desired purpose in life.
So what’s the catch here? We need to discover “What is our final goal or purpose in life?”
Rule No. 2 : Any pleasure that jeopardize the sacred rights of another person is an illegitimate pleasure.
We need to experience pleasures within the boundaries of mutual respect and observing the dignity of our loved ones as well as our fellow human beings.
Rule No. 3 : Experience pleasures in moderate amounts and do not indulge.
We need to enjoy pleasures in reasonable and moderate degree and amount to avoid indulgence or addiction.
Pleasures without conscience are illegitimate pleasures
Mahatma Gandhi
After “I do” Part 2. Creating Healthy Marriage requires efforts and hard work!
Here is the second part of the Focus on the Family Marriage Malaysia, marriage campaign clip. Enjoy this great production.
My next posts will be series of clear strategies to sustain a marriage.
First two years of marriage…
In the next 2-3 months, I will be posting educational videos by Focus on the Family Malaysia regarding marriage.
Sustaining a Marital Relationship is hard work. It is more than feelings.
Dr James Dobson, PhD, clinical psychologist said that sustaining a marriage requires a strong and firm commitment regardless of our feelings. Both need to be committed and have the humility to work out the differences and issues. Good and healthy communication tools is the key.
In situation where there is emotional abuse or neglect, then professional help should be explored.
